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PARENTING A VICTOR

Finally; The Missing Piece To Effective Parenting

What do parents want more than anything? To bring up a healthy, happy, successful person. They are constantly searching for tools and advice that can help them to achieve this goal.

The problem is that even those born into good families, who get a good education, whose wishes are granted, and are exposed to sport and the arts, often grow up to be unhappy, unhealthy, albeit successful, famous, and wealthy adults.

What is going on? What else can parents do beside provide everything the experts suggest? Tough love, self-soothing, quality time, lots of praise, no criticism, water babies, Lacrosse, Harvard ........?

Well there is one thing missing. Actually it is an enormous oversight, due to ignorance not thoughtlessness. Parents try their best, but the experts, due to ignorance on their own part, have so far let them down. Big time.

Why is teaching our children how to love themselves the most important gift we can possibly give them?

Once we understand that love is nourishment just like, air, food, and water it become obvious that a human being should no more stay dependent on others for love for their lifetime as to stay dependent on others for air, food, and water.

The focus of parenting, reduced to its most basic element, is teaching a human being to become self-sufficient when it comes to air, food, and water. The point of schooling is to make someone employable, which allows them to purchase their own nourishment.

Shouldn't that be our focus when it comes to love? Teaching children to become self-sufficient? The fact is that children learn that love only comes from their environment and pursue trying to get it from others for the rest of their lives. And the results of that effort are very questionable.

That would be OK if the people in our lives knew how to give love unconditionally, but they don't know how to do that. This leaves most everyone 'malnourished', anxious about where their nourishment is going to come from. Conditional behavior is the norm, even in families, producing stress in relationships, and the consequence is a sense of unworthiness that eventually translates into addictions, depression, divorces, suicides, domestic violence, poor work performance, and so forth.

Love cannot be bought, it doesn't come packaged. Many parents believe that by consenting to a child's wishes, seeing the smile on their face, and hearing "I love you" they succeeded in buying their child's love. All they did was reinforce the child's experience that they have some sort of power over their parent. The relationship is turned inside out and all respect the parent might have had is out the window. Although people desperately try to obtain love via wealth, fame, and success they are never successful. And neither is the parent who happily acquiesces to their child's every demand.

This book, based on my theory that love is nourishment, teaches parents:

Why teaching their child to love themselves unconditionally is the greatest gift they can confer on them

How to teach this skill effectively, masterfully

How to learn to love themselves unconditionally, fundamental to becoming appropriate role models

How this can translate into having great relationships with everyone important in their life

LifePros^TM -

Time to Awaken and Age Powerfully

The Fountain of Youth? Anti-wrinkle creams?

Vegan and super healthy diets and exercises? Travel Around The World?

Baby sit? Read all of your favorite books?

Play golf? Watch TV and read Facebook?

Is this really what life holds out for people once they retire? Or is it that they don't want to let go of a job - because they need income or because they don't know what else to do with themselves?

A new theory of aging shatters all these conceptions.

Is there a reason people live till 80 or 90? Thousands of years ago there were fewer 80/90 year olds but they were there. If sickness doesn't take us our lifespan stretches to 80/90 even 100. There must be a purpose to having these years to live. A purpose beyond sitting around twiddling our thumbs, or finding ways to keep busy. Otherwise we'd die at 30 or 50. What is that purpose?

The answer is very exciting. Nature gets it right every time and when we look close that purpose becomes clearer than a bell.

First thing we need to understand is that all of life is about growth and development, not just the first decade or two.

The second thing we need to understand is that without loving ourselves and others unconditionally, and getting it in return, we will never be happy.

After developing our bodies and then our minds, we have the opportunity to develop our Self, the part of us that can be taught how to love - others and us - unconditionally.

Just why is love so important? I bet you think you know. Well it turns out that love is an energy no different from air, food, and water. It is nourishment that when we are deprived of it we suffer, we are in pain, we search desperately for a source. As part of that search we get married, we get divorced, we make friends and we abandon them. But the worst thing we experience in this search is that we never realize that we are the best source of this love - just like we're the best source for the air, food and water we need.

And that is why Nature has us hang around for 80/90 years. The last stage of life is for fully developing our ability to love.

We are talking about real love, the love that truly nourishes everyone we come into contact with, as well as ourselves, not the romantic notions we write songs, books and make movies about.

While developing our bodies and minds are useful and necessary, neither is able to bring us the happiness we desire. Being taller, stronger, a super athlete or smarter, wealthier, etc. have not helped a single person find happiness, like themselves more or have more loving relationships.

The gift of life, those extra years we are presented with, are for the purpose of nourishing people in our life, in our communities, in the world.

Love that excludes even a single individual is not love, it is simply 'masturbation' - pleasing oneself - without understanding or accepting our purpose on the planet.

This book will teach you how to love yourself and others, heal all relationships now in pain, teach you how to get the love you deserve from others, and help you fulfill your purpose in life - nourishing the planet.